atha's scrapbook: Opinion
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Showing posts with label Opinion. Show all posts

August 15, 2023

Till death do us part

Tuesday, August 15, 2023 0
Till death do us part

 Love-birds tend to make corny promises when they get married. One of which is to stay together until death do them part. But what happened after death? Does love suddenly dissapear and it’s okay for one spouse to look for another and repeat to promise the same thing?


The concept of monogamy somehow becomes blurry; yes, they’re only married to one person at a time, but no, they’re not in love with one person only.


I’ve never married and don’t understand how feelings grown between spouses. The one person who you’d spend most of your time with, the one whom you share your deepest secrects and worst fears to. I’m really sure it is one of the strongest connections not-blood-related humans could ever make.


I may sound stiff, but what I imagine in a marriage is that my spouse will be the love of my life. I could never love anyone the same. Or worse, I will never love again.


But it turns out that humans are dinamic. People change, feelings change.


There are people who get remarried after death, or after a divorce. There are ones who love the next person more than their exes. But there are also people who doesn’t want to get remarried. There are ones who are too afraid to fall in love again.


But there’s one thing in common; people just want to be okay, everyone wants to feel safe and secured. Oh, to love and to be loved.


So I guess the idea of “till death do us part” doesn’t seem too corny. People tends to make ridiculous promises when they’re happy. I mean, there’s nothing wrong in wanting more, wanting for the best.


I secretly wish there is better alternative term than “till death do us part”.


All my love,

Atha


September 16, 2017

Broaden Your Border

Saturday, September 16, 2017 0
Broaden Your Border
As for some people, broadening their borders seems scary. Oh, forget about seeing. The idea of it already scared them to death. Those people are usually already too comfortable of being on their comfort zone. Too afraid to walk to a 'better area'. Too scared to make sacrifices.

I believe that there's price for you to pay in order to achieve good things. There are sacrifices to make. This year is my 5th year of living separately from my parents and to be honest, I don't really like the idea of it. But for me that is the sacrifice I had to make to be able to study in a better educational system, and I'm forever grateful for that chance.

Moving to one city to another is also a great challenge for me as a truly introvert. I'm not comfortable approaching people or let's just say I'm not good at making a move. I also take longer time than normal people to be myself in a new surrounding. But those flaws of mine didn't stop me to explore more. Getting involved in a new environment could be a nightmare for me, but I tried to be positive and enjoyed the adaptation process, because I knew, I always knew, at the end, those new people, cities, and schools will always be my favorites.

Why are there some people who don't like to move out? There are a lot of stories I've heard about strict parents, non-loving families, non-supporting environment, and the saddest one, cheapening themselves. Come on man, those reasons can't, won't, and never could stop you from dreaming. Oh, except the last one maybe.

I got saddened by the fact that some people out there are still afraid to dream. They think that dreaming about big things are useless and they won't achieve it, so why bother dreaming. As I have said, they're cheapening them selves. They don't believe in themselves that they can do bigger things, that they could be becoming greater than they are now.

Dreaming is free. I am myself had proven it that it is no wrong to have big dreams, they are actually achieve-able if you really really want them to. I'm not coming from a wealthy family who can travel the world as much as I want. And I only have seen a little of this big world. It's funny how those memories I had make me craving for broadening my borders. I want to see more. I want to experience more. I wanna be better at understanding people with so many different background stories. I wanna be able to inspire more people to move out from their comfort zones.

It's sad somehow, knowing that there are people who are still comfortable being in their comfort zone, those who are already satisfied of knowledge, of experience, of friends they've had. I know we can't force people to believe what we believe. But I really want them to know, that this beautiful world we're living in is much much bigger, more beautiful, more exciting, and truly dearer than their small comfort zone. Go explore, and you'll understand.


I hope you could see the world the way great people do.
Love,
Atha